It’s time to ask yourself- Is perfectionism blocking your manifestations? Perfectionism often feels like a safety net, protecting us from failure and rejection. There’s an illusion of control with perfectionism. We believe that if everything is perfect, nothing can go wrong. Perfectionism leads to burnout, frustration, and a constant sense of inadequacy, which blocks the flow of abundance and creativity. And this is how perfectionism is blocking your manifestations. It can also lead to us feeling stuck, afraid to move forward out of fear of messing up. When we get into this cycle of perfectionism, we are missing that imperfect progress that we learn and grow from. Build resiliency through.
In the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, perfectionism is seen as a protective part—a part that means well but often ends up doing more harm than good. (This is the story of our parts lives!) This part of us creates resistance, blocking the very manifestations we desire. When we acknowledge and soothe the perfectionist part, we can allow other parts of us that value growth, learning, and creativity to lead.
What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)?
I view the world through the lens of Internal Family Systems (it’s the therapist in me!). I believe IFS not only works in a therapeutic setting but also within manifestation.
According to IFS, we are composed of many parts, aspects of our personality, and our True Self. Our parts and True Self work together. True Self is what connects us to the Universe, it is our higher self, our authentic self. Our parts are what make us human. However, our parts can also take on new jobs and roles based on our experiences. Particularly in childhood/adolescence. IFS helps us connect with these parts of us building relationships and trust within our internal world. No longer having that internal struggle, being pulled in many directions, or second guessing ourselves or our abilities. IFS brings healing and harmony to our internal system, just the way it was intended to be.
Understanding Our Parts
Our parts take on new roles and jobs as a way to protect us, keep us and our internal system safe. Even if it doesn’t seem like it’s the best thing to do, especially as our experiences change. These parts of us are so impacted by our experiences, they internalize them often leading to programming, conditioning, limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, unhealthy behaviors, and ultimately low self-worth. Remember-we must be in our worth to manifest.
Often times, our parts take over. They blend with our True Self, and we are then only operating from a place of past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs. This is not the place we want to be when we are trying to manifest!
Using principles of IFS, we learn how to align with our True Self, connect with our parts, and build trusting relationships within the system. By building that trust and relationship, the parts learn that it is safe to allow our True Self to take the lead. We can also work with these parts holding the past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs, so they can begin to heal, let go, and feel safe. This is where the magic happens!
Questions For You
Let me ask you this- Do you struggle with perfectionism? How has it impacted your life? Is perfectionism blocking your manifestations? What would happen if you loosened your grip on perfection and embraced progress instead?
I want you to imagine the freedom, the flow, and the abundance that could come your way!
How To Stop Perfectionism From Blocking Your Manifestations
Below is a step-by-step guide to help you loosen your grip on perfectionism and stop perfectionism from blocking your manifestations. In this guide I offer you 8 practices to release the need for perfectionism. By doing this, you are creating space for you to be YOU. To lift the veil of who you want others to perceive you as. And so importantly, for the Universe to give you what you truly desire.
Step 1: Recognize the Perfectionist Part
Practice: Self-Reflection
– What to Do: Start by acknowledging that perfectionism is a part of you, not the whole of you. This is a protective part that has likely developed over time due to past experiences, beliefs, or societal pressures. Take some time to reflect on when this part tends to show up in your life. Is it in work, relationships, or personal goals?
– How to Do It: Journaling can be a powerful tool for this. Write down specific instances where you felt the need to be perfect. What were you trying to achieve or avoid in those moments? Were you trying to protect yourself from failure, criticism, or something else? Thank this part for protecting you all this time. By thanking our parts, we are validating the work they are doing for us, even if we don’t agree with it, and begin building a relationship with this part. When we build trust and relationships with our parts, they begin trusting us enough to let us, True Self us, take the lead. Instead of overriding us, which is what blocks our manifestations.
Step 2: Practice Self-Compassion
Practice: Mindful Self-Compassion
– What to Do: Once you’ve recognized your perfectionist part, it’s crucial to approach it with compassion rather than judgment. This part has been trying to protect you, and it deserves kindness.
– How to Do It: Practice self-compassion by speaking to yourself the way you would to a close friend. Acknowledge the effort your perfectionist part has put in, but gently remind it that it’s okay to be imperfect. You might say something like, “I know you’re trying to help me do my best, but it’s okay if things aren’t perfect. I’m enough just as I am.”
Step 3: Set Realistic Goals
Practice: SMART Goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound)
– What to Do: Perfectionism often stems from setting unrealistic or overly ambitious goals. By setting more realistic goals, you can reduce the pressure you put on yourself.
– How to Do It: Break down your goals into smaller, more manageable steps. For example, instead of setting a goal to “create the perfect presentation,” set a goal to “complete the first draft of my presentation by Friday.” Focus on progress rather than perfection and celebrate small victories along the way.
Step 4: Embrace the Concept of “Good Enough”
Practice: The “Good Enough” Mindset
– What to Do: Help this part shift its mindset from striving for perfection to embracing “good enough.” This doesn’t mean lowering your standards but rather recognizing that perfection is an unattainable ideal.
– How to Do It: Before completing a task, ask yourself, “Is this good enough to achieve the desired outcome?” If the answer is yes, let it go. Practice letting go of the need to polish every detail and trust that your effort is sufficient. Reassure the part that sufficient is good enough.
Step 5: Create a Daily “Letting Go” Ritual
Practice: Daily Ritual
– What to Do: Create a daily ritual that helps you let go of perfectionist tendencies and invite in ease and flow. This could be as simple as a meditation, a short walk, or a few deep breaths.
– How to Do It: Each morning or evening, take a few moments to consciously release any perfectionist thoughts or anxieties. You might use an affirmation like, “I release the need to be perfect. I trust that what I create is enough, and I am enough.” Invite the perfectionist part to do this with you!
Step 6: Recognize Progress and Celebrate It
Practice: Gratitude and Acknowledgment
– What to Do: Regularly acknowledge and celebrate the progress you’ve made, no matter how small. This reinforces the idea that progress is more important than perfection.
– How to Do It: At the end of each day or week, write down three things you accomplished or learned. Focus on the positive steps you took, even if they weren’t perfect. This helps shift your focus from what didn’t go perfectly to what went well. This is probably one of my favorite practices. Give yourself credit for ALL the things, no matter how small. Made the bed? Give yourself credit. Got to work on time? You get credit for that. Did a small thing to take care of yourself? Credit. You get all the props. At first, it might not feel sincere, but keep going and you will notice such a shift internally.
Step 7: Reframe Mistakes as Learning Opportunities
Practice: Growth Mindset
– What to Do: Shift your perspective on mistakes and imperfections. Instead of viewing them as failures, see them as opportunities for growth and learning.
– How to Do It: When you encounter a mistake, pause and reflect on what you can learn from it. Ask yourself, “What did this teach me? How can I use this experience to improve next time?” By reframing mistakes, you reduce the fear of imperfection and open up space for creative flow. Reflection is different than beating yourself up. Reflection is neutral and that is where you want to be.
Step 8: Align with Your True Self
Practice: True Self Meditation
– What to Do: In IFS, your True Self is the calm, centered, and compassionate core of who you are. By aligning with your True Self, you can lead your internal system with more ease, reducing the need for perfectionism.
– How to Do It: Spend a few minutes each day in meditation, focusing on connecting with your True Self. Imagine a warm, light energy at your core that radiates outwards, soothing all parts of you. Ask your True Self how it can lead today, especially in areas where perfectionism tends to take over.
Conclusion
By following these steps, you can begin to release the grip and stop perfectionism from blocking your manifestations. You also create space for the Universe to bring in what you truly desire. Each step is a small but powerful way to shift your energy from striving for an impossible ideal to embracing the flow of life, allowing for more authentic and aligned manifestations.
I hope you enjoy this guide and these practices help you as much as they’ve helped me! Happy manifesting!
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