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Today I am discussing the connection between self-love and manifestation! This is part two of my two-part series on Unlocking Your Inner Magnetism, A Journey of Self-Love and Manifestation. In part one, I talked all about self-compassion, why it’s important in manifestation, and offered daily practices to increase self-compassion within yourself with a bonus on how to engage with your parts. If you haven’t read it yet, check it out here!
Introduction to Manifestation with Internal Family Systems (IFS)
There are so many ways one can manifest. And I am not saying those other ways or methods are wrong, I am just saying that those methods might not work for everyone. We are all unique and need different ways to obtain the same goals or dreams that we are manifesting. My method of manifestation uses Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Unlike other manifestation methods that often dismiss, invalidate, or dismiss any emotions that aren’t positive, this one focuses on addressing the subconscious blocks (those uncomfortable emotions) that get in the way of manifesting. IFS also focuses on bringing us into alignment with our True Self, to become Self-Led, and connected to the Universe. This is how you manifest your most amazing life! But first…
What is Manifestation?
Manifestation is the process of transforming your desires and ideas into reality. It is based on the belief that the Universe is constantly giving you what you focus on, so by focusing on your desires, through intentional actions, you can manifest them into your life.
And for manifestation to work we must believe in ourselves. And really truly believe it to our core. We must believe that we can have what we desire.
The Importance of Self-Worth
You probably have seen so many people manifesting successfully, and you don’t get how that is happening. Maybe because they aren’t “good” people. This is the thing. It’s not about good or bad when it comes to self-worth, people can be selfish, self-righteous, unkind, but they believe in themselves. They have high self-worth.
The secret to manifestation is being in our worth.
This is fundamental. This is the key to manifesting. And it’s not talked about enough. It’s bypassed so often with an unspoken assumption that we are in our worth.
Unfortunately, there are subconscious reasons why we don’t feel worthy of what we are trying to manifest. These are the past programming conditioning, and limiting beliefs that our parts are holding onto.
Addressing Subconscious Blocks
To manifest effectively, we need to delve into our subconscious minds, get to the root of those blocks. Those reasons we are not manifesting the things we desire. Positive thinking is helpful but not enough to create profound shifts. This is because positive thinking is done on a conscious level. Our blocks are in our subconscious. Once we work through these blocks instead of ignoring, avoiding, or dismissing them, then we can use positive thinking. Then it won’t feel like there is something inside fighting us or not believing us. Real manifestation happens once we are in our worth; by addressing the root of our thoughts and feelings, we unlock the incredible potential to manifest our dreams into reality. This is where Internal Family Systems comes in.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
I view the world through the lens of Internal Family Systems (it’s the therapist in me!). I believe IFS not only works in a therapeutic setting but also within manifestation.
According to IFS, we are composed of many parts, aspects of our personality, and our True Self. Our parts and True Self work together. Our True Self is what connects us to the Universe, it is our higher self, our authentic self. Our parts are what make us human. However, our parts can also take on new jobs and roles based on our experiences. Particularly in childhood/adolescence. IFS helps us connect with these parts of us building relationships and trust within our internal world. No longer having that internal struggle, being pulled in many directions, or second guessing ourselves or our abilities. IFS brings healing and harmony to our internal system, just the way it was intended to be.
Understanding Our Parts
Our parts take on new roles and jobs as a way to protect us, keep us and our internal system safe. Even if it doesn’t seem like it’s the best thing to do, especially as our experiences change. These parts of us are so impacted by our experiences, they internalize them often leading to programming, conditioning, limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, unhealthy behaviors, and ultimately low self-worth. Remember-we must be in our worth to manifest.
Often times, our parts take over. They blend with our True Self, and we are then only operating from a place of past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs. This is not the place we want to be when we are trying to manifest!
Using principles of IFS, we learn how to align with our True Self, connect with our parts, and build trusting relationships within the system. By building that trust and relationship, the parts learn that it is safe to allow our True Self to take the lead. We can also work with these parts holding the past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs, so they can begin to heal, let go, and feel safe. This is where the magic happens!
Connecting with Your True Self
True Self, also known as our authentic self or higher self, is our intuitive guide. When we are in True Self, we are open to the Universe and can receive what it offers. Accessing True Self energy means being present, connected to our bodies, and aligned with the creative consciousness of the Universe.
Knowing you’re in True Self involves experiencing at least one of the 8 C’s: compassion, curiosity, clarity, creativity, calm, confidence, courage, and connectedness. In other words, are you feeling open? These qualities signify that you are aligned with your True Self and ready to co-create the life you desire with the Universe.
Becoming Self-Led
Themore we go inward, talk to our parts, build a relationship, the more we become Self-led. The more we become Self-led, the more we are opening ourselves up to the Universe. We feel inherently worthy, deserving, of what we are trying to manifest. This is because the parts are no longer jumping in based on what happened in the past. Instead, they feel safe and secure to let our True Self take the lead.
This creates internal harmony and opens us up to the Universe. By working with our parts, we can heal from past programming and limiting beliefs, making space for our manifestations to flow in.
This is how I use IFS to manifest, and it’s my goal to help you too! I guide individuals to get to the root of the subconscious blocks that gets in the way of their manifestations. Through alignment with their True Self, connection with all parts of themselves, and becoming Self-Led, they become open to the Universe and manifest their most amazing lives.
Self-Love
Self-love and self-compassion are key factors in successful manifestation. This is because both things boost your self-worth and lead you to being Self-led. Remember, to successfully manifest we must be in our worth and in alignment with our True Self and with the Universe.
I’ve spoken about being Self-led before, essentially it is when your True Self is taking the lead. You are in the driver seat, and your parts are the copilots. True Self you is in control of your internal world, no longer being led by past programming, limiting beliefs, conditioning, and such. You are the wise, compassionate one navigating through life’s experiences.
Why is Being Self-Led Important for Self-Love?
Being Self-led is critical for self-love as it empowers you to consciously choose responses to life’s challenges, asserting control and fostering a sense of agency. It harmonizes the many parts of your internal world, laying a foundation for self-acceptance and love.
By guiding yourself towards actions that promote self-worth, self-leadership reinforces positive self-regard and helps set healthy boundaries. This is because you are no longer working off those internal scripts from past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs.
Self-leadership equips you with resilience. When you love yourself, you trust in your ability to face hard times and learn from them. This trust builds resilience, within the system allowing you to navigate difficult emotions with compassion instead of criticism.
At the core of self-leadership is authenticity – being true to who you are. This authenticity fosters deep self-love because it’s about embracing your unique journey, including your strengths and vulnerabilities. When you lead yourself with authenticity, you live in alignment with your True Self, which naturally cultivates self-love.
Practices you can use to harness self-love and compassion as a foundation for manifestation
I’m all about practices, rituals, and exercises to get us where we want to be. It’s one thing to read something, but it’s another thing to put it into practice. This is where the shifts happen. By doing these practices, or others I have discussed in other podcasts/blogposts, you are learning how to retrain your brain, you are making new neural pathways, and are breaking old patterns and cycles that are no longer useful or helpful. You are also becoming more aligned with your True Self, connecting with all parts of you, becoming more and more magnetic to what you are manifesting.
So, let’s begin!
Daily Self-Love Affirmations
Daily Affirmations can be a powerful practice IF your parts are open to them. Often times daily affirmations will bring up self-doubt, a critical voice, or even anxiety. Instead of dismissing these thoughts and feelings (parts), you can have a dialog with them, while in True Self, as to why they feel some type of way. Ask them why are they apprehensive? Then just listen, without judgment, validate the parts, reassure them that it is safe to think this way about yourself. Also check out the bonus section here from part one of this series for more prompts on how to talk to your parts.
5 examples of affirmations to reinforce self-love and acceptance
These affirmations can be used daily to help foster a positive and compassionate relationship with yourself:
1. I am worthy of love and respect, exactly as I am.
– This affirmation reinforces the idea that self-worth is inherent and not contingent on external achievements or validation.
2. I choose to treat myself with kindness and compassion in every moment.
– This encourages the practice of self-compassion, reminding you to be gentle and understanding, especially during challenging times.
3. I trust my inner wisdom and intuition to guide me in making empowering decisions.
– This affirmation fosters trust in your own abilities and inner guidance, promoting self-reliance and confidence.
4. I celebrate my strengths and accept my weaknesses with grace.
– It highlights the importance of embracing the full spectrum of your qualities, fostering a balanced and accepting view of yourself.
5. I give myself permission to grow and learn from my experiences.
– This statement supports the idea of personal growth as a continuous journey, encouraging a mindset of learning and evolution rather than perfection.
Using affirmations like these can help shift your inner dialogue to a more supportive and loving tone, which is crucial for cultivating self-love and acceptance. I encourage you to repeat these affirmations daily, perhaps as part of your morning routine or whenever you need a reminder of your inherent worth and capability.
Journaling for Clarity and Release
Use journaling as a tool to clarify desires, acknowledge fears or barriers (represented by different parts), and cultivate a compassionate dialogue with yourself and these parts. This can help in releasing limiting beliefs and aligning more closely with your manifesting goals.
Journal Prompts:
What is it that I truly desire?
How do my parts feel about these desires?
What are the beliefs that might be blocking these desires?
What do these parts need from me to help them let go of these limiting beliefs?
End with expressing gratitude to these parts for sharing this with you and for all of the work they have done to try to keep you and the system safe. Remember all parts have positive intentions, even if it doesn’t feel like it.
Also, give credit when you notice any shifts, changes, or progress in the direction you want, however small. This teaches your parts that this is what you want and again, parts love validation. It feels good!
Visualization and Embodying Desired Outcomes
Visualization is a powerful tool in manifestation. You can create vivid mental images of your desired outcomes, focusing on the feelings and sensations of having already achieved these desires. This practice is enhanced by embodying the energy of your True Self, fostering a deeper sense of self-love and worthiness.
To do this, imagine your life after achieving your desires, focusing on the joy, peace, and love you feel. Notice any parts that may arise with skepticism or fear and address these with compassion.
Creating a Self-Love Ritual
Establish a daily or weekly self-love ritual that nurtures your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. This ritual will act as a foundation for a high vibration and alignment with your desires.
Ideas for rituals can be activities such as meditative walks, self-care practices, creative expression, or spending time in nature. Personalize your ritual with activities to whatever makes your heart sing!
For me, I like to sit in my sauna a couple times a week. When it’s nice outside, I love going for walks and hikes, I prioritize connecting with friends, and I also love creating things, so I’m often exploring and engaging in crafts and hobbies.
Incorporating these practical steps into your daily lives will empower you to use self-love and compassion as a dynamic foundation for manifesting your most amazing life.
Each step is designed to integrate seamlessly into personal routines, making the process of manifestation both accessible and transformative. Who doesn’t love that?!
Manifesting Your Amazing Life
The Connection Between Self-Love, Self-Compassion, and Manifestation:
A harmonious internal system is pivotal for manifestation. When all parts of yourself are acknowledged and loved, your energy aligns with your true intentions, your True Self, creating a powerful frequency that the Universe responds to. Self-love and self-compassion ensure that your parts support rather than contradict your goals, ensuring a clear and powerful manifestation process.
Activity: An IFS-Informed Visualization/Manifestation Exercise
Relax and Ground Yourself:
Begin with a deep breathing exercise to ground yourself in the present moment.
Visualize Your Self-Led Life:
Imagine your life led by your True Self. Picture yourself acting with confidence, making decisions that reflect your true desires, and interacting with others from a place of compassion.
Reflect on Each Part’s Role:
Consider each part that might have a role in your life goals. Visualize a council of parts, with True Self at the center, discussing and supporting your aspirations.
Manifestation Affirmation:
Create an affirmation that encompasses the acceptance and support of all your parts, affirming your path towards your goals.
Reflective Journaling:
After visualization, journal about the experience, noting any insights or shifts in your internal system that may have arisen.
By integrating IFS principles into the manifestation process, you’re ensuring that all parts of you are working together towards your desired outcome, which significantly enhances your ability to manifest the life you’ve always wanted. This is how you unlock your inner magnetism!
I hope this inspired you to turn inward and build self-love and self-compassion so that you can be your most magnetic self, manifesting everything you’ve always wanted! If you have any questions or comments, put them in the comment section below.
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