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What do you do when your part is out of alignment with how you want to show up in the world? Or in this case feel good about how you handle family dynamics?
On this week’s episode, I have on special guest, Stephanie Pastore to demonstrate an IFS Parts Work session on one of Stephanie’s parts that becomes activated around certain family members and in recent relationship. We dig deep to find the root of why this part does what it does and worked with this part to shift this behavior.
Introduction to Manifestation with Internal Family Systems (IFS)
There are so many ways one can manifest. And I am not saying those other ways or methods are wrong, I am just saying that those methods might not work for everyone. We are all unique and need different ways to obtain the same goals or dreams that we are manifesting. My method of manifestation uses Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Unlike other manifestation methods that often dismiss, invalidate, or dismiss any emotions that aren’t positive, this one focuses on addressing the subconscious blocks (those uncomfortable emotions) that get in the way of manifesting. IFS also focuses on bringing us into alignment with our True Self, to become Self-Led, and connected to the Universe. This is how you manifest your most amazing life! But first…
What is Manifestation?
Manifestation is the process of transforming your desires and ideas into reality. It is based on the belief that the Universe is constantly giving you what you focus on, so by focusing on your desires, through intentional actions, you can manifest them into your life.
And for manifestation to work we must believe in ourselves. And really truly believe it to our core. We must believe that we can have what we desire.
The Importance of Self-Worth
You probably have seen so many people manifesting successfully, and you don’t get how that is happening. Maybe because they aren’t “good” people. This is the thing. It’s not about good or bad when it comes to self-worth, people can be selfish, self-righteous, unkind, but they believe in themselves. They have high self-worth.
The secret to manifestation is being in our worth.
This is fundamental. This is the key to manifesting. And it’s not talked about enough. It’s bypassed so often with an unspoken assumption that we are in our worth.
Unfortunately, there are subconscious reasons why we don’t feel worthy of what we are trying to manifest. These are the past programming conditioning, and limiting beliefs that our parts are holding onto.
Addressing Subconscious Blocks
To manifest effectively, we need to delve into our subconscious minds, get to the root of those blocks. Those reasons we are not manifesting the things we desire. Positive thinking is helpful but not enough to create profound shifts. This is because positive thinking is done on a conscious level. Our blocks are in our subconscious. Once we work through these blocks instead of ignoring, avoiding, or dismissing them, then we can use positive thinking. Then it won’t feel like there is something inside fighting us or not believing us. Real manifestation happens once we are in our worth; by addressing the root of our thoughts and feelings, we unlock the incredible potential to manifest our dreams into reality. This is where Internal Family Systems comes in.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
I view the world through the lens of Internal Family Systems (it’s the therapist in me!). I believe IFS not only works in a therapeutic setting but also within manifestation.
According to IFS, we are composed of many parts, aspects of our personality, and our True Self. Our parts and True Self work together. Our True Self is what connects us to the Universe, it is our higher self, our authentic self. Our parts are what make us human. However, our parts can also take on new jobs and roles based on our experiences. Particularly in childhood/adolescence. IFS helps us connect with these parts of us building relationships and trust within our internal world. No longer having that internal struggle, being pulled in many directions, or second guessing ourselves or our abilities. IFS brings healing and harmony to our internal system, just the way it was intended to be.
Understanding Our Parts
Our parts take on new roles and jobs as a way to protect us, keep us and our internal system safe. Even if it doesn’t seem like it’s the best thing to do, especially as our experiences change. These parts of us are so impacted by our experiences, they internalize them often leading to programming, conditioning, limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, unhealthy behaviors, and ultimately low self-worth. Remember-we must be in our worth to manifest.
Often times, our parts take over. They blend with our True Self, and we are then only operating from a place of past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs. This is not the place we want to be when we are trying to manifest!
Using principles of IFS, we learn how to align with our True Self, connect with our parts, and build trusting relationships within the system. By building that trust and relationship, the parts learn that it is safe to allow our True Self to take the lead. We can also work with these parts holding the past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs, so they can begin to heal, let go, and feel safe. This is where the magic happens!
Connecting with Your True Self
True Self, also known as our authentic self or higher self, is our intuitive guide. When we are in True Self, we are open to the Universe and can receive what it offers. Accessing True Self energy means being present, connected to our bodies, and aligned with the creative consciousness of the Universe.
Knowing you’re in True Self involves experiencing at least one of the 8 C’s: compassion, curiosity, clarity, creativity, calm, confidence, courage, and connectedness. In other words, are you feeling open? These qualities signify that you are aligned with your True Self and ready to co-create the life you desire with the Universe.
Becoming Self-Led
Themore we go inward, talk to our parts, build a relationship, the more we become Self-led. The more we become Self-led, the more we are opening ourselves up to the Universe. We feel inherently worthy, deserving, of what we are trying to manifest. This is because the parts are no longer jumping in based on what happened in the past. Instead, they feel safe and secure to let our True Self take the lead.
This creates internal harmony and opens us up to the Universe. By working with our parts, we can heal from past programming and limiting beliefs, making space for our manifestations to flow in.
This is how I use IFS to manifest, and it’s my goal to help you too! I guide individuals to get to the root of the subconscious blocks that gets in the way of their manifestations. Through alignment with their True Self, connection with all parts of themselves, and becoming Self-Led, they become open to the Universe and manifest their most amazing lives.
Meet Stephanie
My guest today is Stephanie Pastore. Stephanie is 37, lives in Buffalo NY, she is single, never been married, no children, and she is a therapist with a love for astrology and let me tell you she’s good! She has this amazing knack of meeting people and intuitively knowing what sign they are. It’s very impressive!
Stephanie has been working with me for some time now with her parts which contributed to her leaving a tumultuous relationship recently, the grief and loss around this, as well as healing from and navigating difficult family dynamics, which is what we continue with today, just in time for the holidays.
When Your Part Is Out Of Alignment
These parts have been blocking Stephanie from aligning with her True Self. As you will hear, Stephanie identifies a part that we’ve worked with that struggled with societal norms and family pressures around marriage and children. When she was finally able to release that she was able to look at her life from the perspective of what she really wants, what her True Self wants. But there is still a part of her that gets activated when these things as well as others, as you will hear. This part she calls The Tone. Listen to how we are able to work with this part so that it can feel confident in Stephanie’s abilities to manage her family dynamics without taking over.
What an IFS Parts Work session is like
Since Stephanie and I have been working together for some time now, our way of approaching Parts Work is a bit laid back. Stephanie has been working with her parts for a while now and has developed her own way of visualizing and communicating with them. I say this because each person and each session are a little different. Each time is an adventure!
This episode is amazing, vulnerable, and raw. I really hope all of you enjoy this.
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