I’ve got a secret about the Secret

by | Oct 11, 2022 | Coaching | 0 comments

I’m sure you’ve all seen the movie or read the book, The Secret, about the Law of Attraction. It probably inspired you. It did me many years ago. I began to work on only thinking positively so that I can only send out “good vibes” to the Universe. made killer vision board that encompassed all the things I wanted to manifest. And, I was excited! And then I wasn’t. it didn’t work. Now, let me ask, did it work for you? Or did you feel deflated? Question yourself on what you were doing wrong? Felt horrible about those not so positive thoughts you put out into the Universe after that guy took your parking spot at Trader Joes?

What do we really need to manifest?

Me too! Then I started to think about what is needed to manifest. The main thing is we need to be in our worth. I found that positive thinking alone isn’t going to change the way I thought about myself. And here’s why, the things that are blocking us from being in our self-worth is rooted in our subconscious. However, positive thinking works on the conscious level. Same with vision boards. Therefore, we are not tapping into the root of why we don’t feel fully in our worth.

Spiritual Bypassing.

Not only that, but by trying to only think positively, we invalidate the parts of ourselves that have been hurt in the past. We can’t avoid or repress these parts. No matter how hard we try. This is spiritual bypassing. If you’re not familiar with this term, it’s defined as: “tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks.” By John Welwood, a transpersonal psychotherapist. I’ve included a link to the article on spiritual bypass, in case you would like to explore this more.

The Universe isn’t smiteful.

The Universe wants us to succeed. She understands people have bad days, and isn’t going to punish us for getting pissed off at something. She does, however, want us to be in our worth. And the way I look at is she is giving us opportunities to work on things that interfere with our self-worth. So, no amount of positive thinking is going to get us in our worth. We have to do the work. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good vision board. But a vision board alone is not going to give you what you ask for.

I’ll conclude with this, let’s honor ourselves and our parts by ending the spiritual bypassing of “good vibes only”. That way we can align with our True Selves, be in our full worth, and manifest whatever it is our heart desires!

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