5 Lessons I’ve learned in 2023

by | Jan 1, 2024 | IFS and Parts Work | 0 comments

What I’m taking with me, and what I’m leaving behind and letting go of in 2024.

Around New Year’s, besides the rituals and practices I like to do, read all about them here, I also like to reflect on the past year, lessons I’ve learned, what I’m taking with me in 2024 and what to leave behind and let go of in the coming year.

Reflecting on these things is how we grow, transform, and become the best versions of ourselves! While writing this, I noticed a theme of disconnection and stress throughout and how this theme played out in many aspects of my life.

So, I wanted to share with you a few lessons I’ve learned from 2023.

Lesson 1: Connection to myself is so valuable and also so difficult at times.

This is something I speak about often. That connection and alignment with your authentic True Self is what connects you to the Universe. It is what helps you feel worthy, deserving, and is the key to manifesting the life you’ve always wanted. But there were times throughout this year that I got so caught up in the day-to-day mundane tasks and work that I simply forgot.

I have this part of me that likes to keep me on track, which I appreciate so much! But if I don’t reign this Task Master part in, she takes over and soon I am just doing, doing, doing, instead of being. Which is how you become connected with yourself, and the Universe.

On the one hand, it felt awesome to get things accomplished, but on the other, it led to me feeling overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, and stressed (even though I was doing things). That’s like the opposite of connection!

I’ve learned that when I get caught up in the day-to-day crap, I lose sight of who I am, what I am meant to do, and how I am supposed to show up in this world.

So, what I am taking with me in 2024 is prioritizing me, my connection to my True Self, my parts, and the Universe. This is not being selfish either. When I prioritize myself, I am a better human. I show up differently in the world. I have more capacity to be there for the people I love and care about.

I’m leaving behind prioritizing my to-do list and other “busy work” for the sake of my wellbeing. I am going to allow myself times to just be. To get out of my head and into my body. I’m going to do this through movement, meditation, and getting out in nature, when it’s warm enough to!

I’m also going to keep an eye on that task master part and continue to work with her so that she feels safe to ease up on the “doing”. Which is an entire other lesson all together-our work on ourselves is never done! And that’s the way it’s supposed to be.

Lesson 2: My health can’t be taken for granted.

This goes with the previous one-as I mentioned in the beginning, the theme.

As I get older, I am prioritizing my health more and more. Especially after being diagnosed by my Integrative Doctor with HPA Dysfunction (Also known as Adrenal Fatigue) a couple of years ago. It has been a slow road to recovery.

But again, when I get caught up in the day-to-day stuff, I often push off the things I know that I must do for my health and stress levels, including my workouts and meditation routine.

When I prioritize my health, It’s also good for my ADHD. Although I take medication, it’s not a cure-all. I still need my systems, routines, and schedules that I have constructed through the years, which has helped me immensely. I also know that what I put into my body effects my ADHD as well as my HPA Dysfunction. When I go on sugar binges, which I am prone to when I’m stressed, it wreaks havoc on my physical health, emotional and mental well-being.

2023 was a bit of a crash and burn at times. I’ve learned that I must stay consistent. I am going to leave behind these unhealthy coping skills that I fall back on when stressed that only lead to feeling shittier, and more stressed. I am going to do the hard things in 2024 like taking mindful moments, going for a walk when I can, and nourishing my body instead of filling it with Twizzlers because I’m stressed.

Lesson 3: And I can’t take my relationships for granted either.

My relationships with friends, family, and partner, are so important to me. They fill me up and give me so much joy. But this past year proved that it was so easy to get hyper focused on work and things that I’ve noticed I let these relationships slide. And my poor partner often gets the brunt of my stress more times that I like to admit. Which is not fair to him at all!

I spent years working on myself enough to feel comfortable setting boundaries with others and honestly cutting out unhealthy people. So, the people that are in my circle now are truly amazing people who are thoughtful, kind, supportive, and whom I know I can truly count on anytime. This is why it is so important that I don’t take these relationships for granted.

In 2024, I’m not going to take my relationships for granted. I’ve learned that I need to reach out more, to show gratitude more often for all my relationships. I’m going to prioritize nurturing my relationships as much as I am going to prioritize nurturing myself.

Lesson 4: Sometimes trips don’t give you the relief you need.

2023 brought some amazing trips, all of which were to Tulum Mexico. If you’ve been following me, you know that I have a connection with Tulum. It’s my happy place. And will one day (hopefully within the next few years) will be my forever home.

The last trip to Tulum was in November for my birthday. Both me and my partner got sick with this horrific sinus thing while we were there. Because of this, the incessant rain (we went at the end of rain season), and other factors beyond our control like the power for the entire town being shut off for an entire day made it difficult to do all of the things that I often like to do to recharge my battery. Like attending classes, sound baths, yoga, eating amazing, healthy food, walking and exploring all over town.

I did very little of these things this last trip. I thought just being there would be enough, but I had to be honest with myself and admit it wasn’t. I came home feeling a little better, but not completely recharged like I have previous times. Don’t get me wrong, I was truly grateful I was able to go. It was still a beautiful experience, but I think I put too much pressure on this trip to “fix” me that when things happened, I felt let down.

In 2024, I’m going to take small moments to recharge. Be more grateful for the little things. If I let go and leave behind the other stuff I talked about, I won’t feel so stressed that I would feel that I need go away to “fix” the problem. To not put so much emphasis and pressure on a trip. Especially when things happen that are out of my control.

Lesson 5: My hobbies are my creative outlet, and an excellent way to connect with my True Self.

Creativity is one of the 8 C’s of True Self. When we are creating something, we are in the zone. That zone is our True Self. And hobbies are a great way to be creative. They fill us up. They allow us to do something that has nothing to do with our careers or jobs, relationships, and so on.

Hobbies let us engage with parts of our identities that don’t get that attention all of the time but help make us who we are. They also relieve stress and let us just do something we want to do instead of what we “have to” do. That is empowering right there! And also, not at all selfish. Can you tell I hear this a lot?

I love being crafty and I have many hobbies that I’ve cycled through, through the years. This past year I really focused on making my own nails, which I have loved the time it takes to set my fake nails up on their little stands, paint, and embellish them with crystals, decals, stamps, glitters, whatever it is. I find it a very meditative experience. And since I make them just for me, I can get as creative as I want with them.

I also weave. This is something that has brought me so much joy. Working with different textures and weaving them into an abstract piece that I can hang on my wall has been a wonderful creative outlet as well.

interior design is another hobby of mine (and almost profession many moons ago). My home, being almost one hundred years old, is in constant need of updating, redoing, remodeling, which we are doing slowly. Sometimes I think too slowly! But again, it’s a creative outlet that I can always delve into.

2023 brought me some joyous moments of creating. It also brought me some not so joyous times of just lounging on the couch after a full day, scrolling through my phone, dissociating, instead of picking up one of my hobbies. In 2024 I am going to limit the scrolling and detach more from electronics in the evenings to engage in what truly lights me up, my creative outlets. There is nothing wrong with taking a little time to dissociate if you need to but minutes rather than hours is best, then move on to something that lights you up.

So, that are some of the lessons that I’ve learned in 2023.

What I am leaving behind, and what I am taking with me to continue to grow, thrive, and manifest in 2024!

What are some lessons you learned in 2023? Let me know in the comment section!


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