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Let’s Talk About the Secret to Manifestation
It’s the thing that we forget about or maybe don’t even realize is needed to be successful manifesting that life we’ve always wanted.
And the secret to manifestation is… being in our worth.
This is fundamental. This is the key to manifesting. And it’s not talked about enough. It’s bypassed a lot of times with an unspoken assumption that we are in our worth.
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes we are! There are also times when we’re not and we are trying and trying, visualizing, doing all of the things to bring in a manifestation. But it won’t come through.
That’s because we are not in our worth. But first, let me share a little background on Internal Family Systems and manifestation, my method to manifestation. You can always skip over this part if you would like!
Introduction to Manifestation with Internal Family Systems (IFS)
There are so many ways one can manifest. And I am not saying those other ways or methods are wrong, I am just saying that those methods might not work for everyone. We are all unique and need different ways to obtain the same goals or dreams that we are manifesting. My method of manifestation uses Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Unlike other manifestation methods that often dismiss, invalidate, or dismiss any emotions that aren’t positive, this one focuses on addressing the subconscious blocks (those uncomfortable emotions) that get in the way of manifesting. IFS also focuses on bringing us into alignment with our True Self, to become Self-Led, and connected to the Universe. This is how you manifest your most amazing life! But first…
What is Manifestation?
Manifestation is the process of transforming your desires and ideas into reality. It is based on the belief that the Universe is constantly giving you what you focus on, so by focusing on your desires, through intentional actions, you can manifest them into your life.
And for manifestation to work we must believe in ourselves. And really truly believe it to our core. We must believe that we can have what we desire.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
I view the world through the lens of Internal Family Systems (it’s the therapist in me!). I believe IFS not only works in a therapeutic setting but also within manifestation.
According to IFS, we are composed of many parts, aspects of our personality, and our True Self. Our parts and True Self work together. Our True Self is what connects us to the Universe, it is our higher self, our authentic self. Our parts are what make us human. However, our parts can also take on new jobs and roles based on our experiences. Particularly in childhood/adolescence. IFS helps us connect with these parts of us building relationships and trust within our internal world. No longer having that internal struggle, being pulled in many directions, or second guessing ourselves or our abilities. IFS brings healing and harmony to our internal system, just the way it was intended to be.
Addressing Subconscious Blocks
To manifest effectively, we need to delve into our subconscious minds, get to the root of those blocks. Those reasons we are not manifesting the things we desire. Positive thinking is helpful but not enough to create profound shifts. This is because positive thinking is done on a conscious level. Our blocks are in our subconscious. Once we work through these blocks instead of ignoring, avoiding, or dismissing them, then we can use positive thinking. Then it won’t feel like there is something inside fighting us or not believing us. Real manifestation happens once we are in our worth; by addressing the root of our thoughts and feelings, we unlock the incredible potential to manifest our dreams into reality. This is where Internal Family Systems comes in.
Understanding Our Parts
Our parts take on new roles and jobs as a way to protect us, keep us and our internal system safe. Even if it doesn’t seem like it’s the best thing to do, especially as our experiences change. These parts of us are so impacted by our experiences, they internalize them often leading to programming, conditioning, limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, unhealthy behaviors, and ultimately low self-worth. Remember-we must be in our worth to manifest.
Often times, our parts take over. They blend with our True Self, and we are then only operating from a place of past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs. This is not the place we want to be when we are trying to manifest!
Using principles of IFS, we learn how to align with our True Self, connect with our parts, and build trusting relationships within the system. By building that trust and relationship, the parts learn that it is safe to allow our True Self to take the lead. We can also work with these parts holding the past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs, so they can begin to heal, let go, and feel safe. This is where the magic happens!
Connecting with Your True Self
True Self, also known as our authentic self or higher self, is our intuitive guide. When we are in True Self, we are open to the Universe and can receive what it offers. Accessing True Self energy means being present, connected to our bodies, and aligned with the creative consciousness of the Universe.
Knowing you’re in True Self involves experiencing at least one of the 8 C’s: compassion, curiosity, clarity, creativity, calm, confidence, courage, and connectedness. In other words, are you feeling open? These qualities signify that you are aligned with your True Self and ready to co-create the life you desire with the Universe. Being in True Self energy is also how we connect with our parts.
Becoming Self-Led
The more we go inward, talk to our parts, build a relationship, the more we become Self-led. The more we become Self-led, the more we are opening ourselves up to the Universe. We feel inherently worthy, deserving, of what we are trying to manifest. This is because the parts are no longer jumping in based on what happened in the past. Instead, they feel safe and secure to let our True Self take the lead.
This creates internal harmony and opens us up to the Universe. By working with our parts, we can heal from past programming and limiting beliefs, making space for our manifestations to flow in.
The Difference Between Self-Esteem and Self-worth
Before I continue, I want to talk about what self-worth is and the difference between self-worth and self-esteem.
Self-esteem stems from external factors — like approval from other people or how you perform on certain tasks.
Self-worth comes from within. You can think of it as a deep-rooted internal belief that you are worthy of love and respect, regardless of your accomplishments or abilities.
Both self-esteem and self-worth can play a part in your overall well-being, as well as your ability to maintain relationships, advance your career, and function in everyday life.
low self-esteem can also contribute to anxiety and depression.
Low self-esteem and self-worth may lead you to:
Shy away from challenges
Avoid advocating for yourself.
Lack motivation to pursue your goals or dreams.
Feel insecure in relationships.
Stay in toxic or abusive relationships.
Low Self-Worth and Self-Esteem Come From Our Parts
low self-esteem often has defense mechanisms or parts that can get in the way of success and take a further toll on self-esteem. You might, for instance, be:
More likely to self-sabotage by not making an effort to avoid the possibility of failure.
Or you could get wrapped up in imagining and planning for the worst possible outcomes, leaving you feeling stuck, afraid to move forward because you’ve already decided that it will be awful.
While your caregivers often model and shape your self-worth early in life, you can still build up your sense of self-worth even if you didn’t get enough love, support, or encouragement as a child. Using Internal Family Systems, we can work with those parts that didn’t get that love, support, or encouragement as a child and reparent them.
When we have parts of us that are holding and therefore projecting onto us criticism it heard from childhood, people pleasing, or perfectionist tendencies, this blocks us from being in our worth. Because we are not working from a place that is fundamentally us. We are working from a place of conditioning, programming, expectations, and pressures.
When we allow someone to cross a boundary out of fear of hurting their feelings or of not being liked, our worth takes a hit. We know when this happens because we get a feeling. Kind of a gut feeling that we should have said something, advocated for ourselves, instead this part only wants to keep the peace. But it hurts us.
This is Why Being in Your Worth is the Secret to Manifestation
Benefits of high self-esteem and self-worth:
Pursue new opportunities.
Speak up for yourself — say, when asking for a raise or setting a boundary
Identify and maintain healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Better navigate life’s obstacles
Enjoy greater success at school and work.
Have better physical and mental health
Both self-esteem and self-worth are important, but self-worth has a more essential role. Unlike self-esteem, self-worth provides a stable sense of mental and emotional armor that external forces can’t sway easily.
When we’re in our worth, we can accept feedback without taking it personally because we want to grow, expand, get better at something, we aren’t afraid to make mistakes or fail because we understand that it is part of the process and isn’t a fundamental view of us as a person.
And I will add that when we are tapping into our True Self we are tapping into our worth. You can see why this is the secret to manifestation!
Being in your Worth When Manifesting
If we feel good about ourselves in one or more areas of our lives, we can definitely see manifestations come through in these areas. If you feel good about yourself at work, you might be able to manifest bigger career goals. However, if we struggle with other areas, say relationships, this might be where we notice manifestations not coming in. It’s not all or nothing. And everybody is different.
What I’ve learned is that the universe isn’t going to give us what we are asking for until it thinks we are ready for it and that we can handle it.
If you are trying to manifest a new career but you’ve always been put down at your job, making you constantly second guess yourself and not have trust in your abilities. Or you struggle to set and maintain boundaries at work. The Universe isn’t going to come through.
Think about it, when we are in that state, what would change if you had a new career? Most times, nothing. We’re still going to struggle with boundaries, we are still going to second guess ourselves and not trust our abilities. The Universe knows that we aren’t ready. Not until we do that work inside. Sometimes we do need to change jobs to be able to see this and build our worth up. These can be stepping stones. Steps in the right direction. To help us learn how to trust ourselves and practice setting boundaries, preparing us for that big manifestation. It also helps build our worth.
How Do I Build My Worth?
First, become aware of your internal world. What are your parts saying to you?
Where are you critical of yourself? Notice this particularly when things go wrong. This can be very telling. Is the critical voice your own, or somebody else’s like a caregiver or somebody that frequently scolded you?
As you notice your internal world, you can begin recognizing what is a part and what is True Self. I get into these on the True Self Manifestation Podcast, in episodes 2 and 3. So go take a listen if you haven’t already!
Get curious about this critical voice, start to build a relationship with it. Then ask yourself how can I talk to myself more compassionately? If you aren’t sure, ask yourself, how would I say this to a friend. We are usually much kinder and forgiving with our friends than we are ourselves. So use that!
Second, nurture those healthy relationships that are supportive and caring.
The ones that believe in you and reinforce your worth. And believe them. It might take time but do it!
Third, recognize all wins, no matter how small.
In the face of challenges, it can be easy to lose sight of all you’ve accomplished. So I recommend making an ongoing list of all your achievements — even seemingly small things, like getting enough sleep for a full week or remembering to pack a healthy lunch for work.
Keeping the list where it’s easily visible then offers a constant reminder of your successes.
I celebrate all wins, big and small. Everything I give a little pat on my back for it. It feels good!
Forth, Watch the comparisons. Instead of comparing yourself to others, who have a completely different set of circumstances, resources, needs, and challenges, try comparing your present self with your younger self.
Journal Exercise
In your journal, or as a freewriting exercise, try asking yourself a few key questions:
What have you learned?
How have you grown?
What accomplishments might surprise your younger self?
And Finally, Have a Mantra
Something that you can say to yourself, or your parts that can shift their perceptions. This is so helpful after we’ve started building a relationship with our parts. Because our parts don’t know what else to do beside what they’ve been doing. You can teach them a new way, instead. Something like I am strong and capable of handling whatever life throws at me. Or I love and appreciate the things I’ve done for myself today.
Lean into the Discomfort
When we are doing things that are aligned with our self-worth, it’s going to feel uncomfortable at first. This doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It just means that you are no longer working from past conditioning and patterns. These feel comfortable, but they’re not in alignment with your True Self or your worth. Discomfort is growth. When you notice it, give yourself some props for that! You’re on the right path!
So there you have it! The secret to manifestation! This is an excerpt from The True Self Manifestation Podcast, Episode 4, The Secret to Manifestation. If you would like to hear the full episode where I go into this deeper check it out here! You can also find it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify,Google Podcasts, and everywhere else podcasts live!
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I know you want to be successful with your manifestation practice. You feel called to manifest everything you want!
However, parts of you have picked up limiting beliefs and behaviors throughout your life that prevent you from connecting with your True Self. There is a lot of fear, judgment, past programming, and conditioning, taking a toll on your self-worth. This prevents you from being in alignment with your True Self.
This is why your manifestations aren’t coming through.
to manifest everything you want, you need to be in our worth, and in alignment with your True Self. Then you can connect with the Universe and manifest! Find out how Here!!
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Podcast Episode Two: What is True Self.
Podcast Episode Three: You’re Parts are blocking your Manifestations. Here’s Why.
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