In this post I’ll explain how self-sabotage interferes with your manifestation practice.
First, what are some self-sabotaging behaviors? Examples include: perfectionism, people pleasing, harsh inner critical voice, or procrastination. There are more, yet I find these are usually the most common.
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Using an Internal Family Systems, Parts Work approach, discover what part is getting in the way of tapping into your True Self and blocking you from manifesting what you want, and what to do about it!
Introduction To Manifestation with Internal Family Systems (IFS)
There are so many ways one can manifest. And I am not saying those other ways or methods are wrong, I am just saying that those methods might not work for everyone. We are all unique and need different ways to obtain the same goals or dreams that we are manifesting. My method of manifestation uses Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Unlike other manifestation methods that often dismiss, invalidate, or dismiss any emotions that aren’t positive, this one focuses on addressing the subconscious blocks (those uncomfortable emotions) that get in the way of manifesting. IFS also focuses on bringing us into alignment with our True Self, to become Self-Led, and connected to the Universe. This is how you manifest your most amazing life! But first…
What Is Manifestation?
Manifestation is the process of transforming your desires and ideas into reality. It is based on the belief that the Universe is constantly giving you what you focus on, so by focusing on your desires, through intentional actions, you can manifest them into your life.
And for manifestation to work we must believe in ourselves. And really truly believe it to our core. We must believe that we can have what we desire.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
I view the world through the lens of Internal Family Systems (it’s the therapist in me!). I believe IFS not only works in a therapeutic setting but also within manifestation.
According to IFS, we are composed of many parts, aspects of our personality, and our True Self. Our parts and True Self work together. Our True Self is what connects us to the Universe, it is our higher self, our authentic self. Our parts are what make us human. However, our parts can also take on new jobs and roles based on our experiences. Particularly in childhood/adolescence. IFS helps us connect with these parts of us building relationships and trust within our internal world. No longer having that internal struggle, being pulled in many directions, or second guessing ourselves or our abilities. IFS brings healing and harmony to our internal system, just the way it was intended to be.
The Importance Of Self-Worth
You probably have seen so many people manifesting successfully, and you don’t get how that is happening. Maybe because they aren’t “good” people. This is the thing. It’s not about good or bad when it comes to self-worth, people can be selfish, self-righteous, unkind, but they believe in themselves. They have high self-worth.
The secret to manifestation is being in our worth.
This is fundamental. This is the key to manifesting. And it’s not talked about enough. It’s bypassed so often with an unspoken assumption that we are in our worth.
Unfortunately, there are subconscious reasons why we don’t feel worthy of what we are trying to manifest. These are the past programming conditioning, and limiting beliefs that our parts are holding onto.
Addressing Subconscious Blocks
To manifest effectively, we need to delve into our subconscious minds, get to the root of those blocks. Those reasons we are not manifesting the things we desire. Positive thinking is helpful but not enough to create profound shifts. This is because positive thinking is done on a conscious level. Our blocks are in our subconscious. Once we work through these blocks instead of ignoring, avoiding, or dismissing them, then we can use positive thinking. Then it won’t feel like there is something inside fighting us or not believing us. Real manifestation happens once we are in our worth; by addressing the root of our thoughts and feelings, we unlock the incredible potential to manifest our dreams into reality. This is where Internal Family Systems comes in.
Understanding Our Parts
Our parts take on new roles and jobs as a way to protect us, keep us and our internal system safe. Even if it doesn’t seem like it’s the best thing to do, especially as our experiences change. These parts of us are so impacted by our experiences, they internalize them often leading to programming, conditioning, limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, unhealthy behaviors, and ultimately low self-worth. Remember-we must be in our worth to manifest.
Often times, our parts take over. They blend with our True Self, and we are then only operating from a place of past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs. This is not the place we want to be when we are trying to manifest!
Using principles of IFS, we learn how to align with our True Self, connect with our parts, and build trusting relationships within the system. By building that trust and relationship, the parts learn that it is safe to allow our True Self to take the lead. We can also work with these parts holding the past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs, so they can begin to heal, let go, and feel safe. This is where the magic happens!
Connecting With Your True Self
True Self, also known as our authentic self or higher self, is our intuitive guide. When we are in True Self, we are open to the Universe and can receive what it offers. Accessing True Self energy means being present, connected to our bodies, and aligned with the creative consciousness of the Universe.
Knowing you’re in True Self involves experiencing at least one of the 8 C’s: compassion, curiosity, clarity, creativity, calm, confidence, courage, and connectedness. In other words, are you feeling open? These qualities signify that you are aligned with your True Self and ready to co-create the life you desire with the Universe. Being in True Self energy is also how we connect with our parts.
Becoming Self-Led
The more we go inward, talk to our parts, build a relationship, the more we become Self-led. The more we become Self-led, the more we are opening ourselves up to the Universe. We feel inherently worthy, deserving, of what we are trying to manifest. This is because the parts are no longer jumping in based on what happened in the past. Instead, they feel safe and secure to let our True Self take the lead.
This creates internal harmony and opens us up to the Universe. By working with our parts, we can heal from past programming and limiting beliefs, making space for our manifestations to flow in.
This is how I use IFS to manifest, and it’s my goal to help you too! I guide individuals to get to the root of the subconscious blocks that gets in the way of their manifestations. Through alignment with their True Self, connection with all parts of themselves, and becoming Self-Led, they become open to the Universe and manifest their most amazing lives.
But How Does Self-Sabotage Interfere With Our Manifestation Practice?
To be successful and consistent with our manifestation practice, we need to be in our worth, and in alignment with our True Self to be able to connect with the Universe. Self-sabotaging behaviors come from a place of fear, judgement, expectations, or limiting beliefs. None of these sound like we are in our worth or in alignment with our True Self.
Using an Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts perspective lens, our self-sabotaging behaviors are parts of us. If you would like to know more about IFS, I wrote a blog post about it recently here. These parts took on new jobs or roles in our childhood as a reaction to what we were dealing with at the time. Our parts have positive intentions. For example, if a caregiver was critical of us, a part of us will take on this role. the intention is to “keep us in line” to try to mitigate the caregiver being critical of us. Or another example, the people pleaser part. This part most likely came about out of fear of rejection, abandonment, or insecurities, that it picked up earlier in life.
Our Inner Critical Part
Or our people pleaser part both came from good intentions. But, through the years that inner critic judges us. It sabotages our successes, work, and relationships with ourselves and others, often resulting in low self-worth, insecurities, and inadequacy. The people pleasing part puts the emotional need to please others first. This is out of fear of rejection, abandonment, or insecurities. And results in the inability to set healthy boundaries, increased feelings of resentment, dissatisfaction, and a loss of self.
In these two examples we begin to understand how our parts do more harm than good, although well intentioned. I want to say that our parts are trying their best, they don’t know any other way and feel compelled to do their jobs. Our parts are also usually exhausted, overworked, and overwhelmed. They want to help us.
So, What Do We Do?
Why don’t we help them? By learning how to get into our True Self energy, we can begin talking to our parts. Build a relationship with them and offering new ways to help us. Or even ask if they would like to take a break sometimes. Everyone needs a break! In case you were wondering, we cannot get rid of our parts. This is something you can reassure them of because it is a big fear for them. Once we understand their perspective, we gain an understanding of why they have taken on this role for so long. And with this we can become more compassionate and be more open to the part.
We can work through these self-sabotaging behaviors by exploring our parts. With this, we are building a foundation that will expand our worth. It will lead to connecting fully with the Universe and amplify our manifestation practice.
Now you know how self-sabotaging behaviors interfere with our manifestation practice. Would you like to learn more about how to work with those parts that sabotage our manifestation practice? Please check out my e-course. It includes a video with guided meditation, worksheets, and infographic. Click here to access it! Start changing your life, one part at a time!
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