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Unlocking Your Inner Magnetism, A Journey of Self-Love and Manifestation
In part one of my two-part series, Unlocking Your Inner Magnetism, A Journey of Self-Love and Manifestation, I am talking about the importance of self-compassion, how it can make you magnetic, and I include practices you can do to cultivate self-compassion with BONUS meditation/journal prompts to engage with your parts!
When we give ourselves true love and compassion, we become magnetic. That magnetism is what we need to manifest the things we want. And that could be love. But first, let me share a little background on Internal Family Systems and manifestation, my method to manifestation, so you know where I’m going with all of this. You can always skip over this part if you would like!
Introduction to Manifestation with Internal Family Systems (IFS)
There are so many ways one can manifest. And I am not saying those other ways or methods are wrong, I am just saying that those methods might not work for everyone. We are all unique and need different ways to obtain the same goals or dreams that we are manifesting. My method of manifestation uses Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Unlike other manifestation methods that often dismiss, invalidate, or dismiss any emotions that aren’t positive, this one focuses on addressing the subconscious blocks (those uncomfortable emotions) that get in the way of manifesting. IFS also focuses on bringing us into alignment with our True Self, to become Self-Led, and connected to the Universe. This is how you manifest your most amazing life! But first…
What is Manifestation?
Manifestation is the process of transforming your desires and ideas into reality. It is based on the belief that the Universe is constantly giving you what you focus on, so by focusing on your desires, through intentional actions, you can manifest them into your life.
And for manifestation to work we must believe in ourselves. And really truly believe it to our core. We must believe that we can have what we desire. That we are worthy of what we are manifesting.
Addressing Subconscious Blocks
To manifest effectively, we need to delve into our subconscious minds, get to the root of those blocks. Those reasons we are not manifesting the things we desire. Positive thinking is helpful but not enough to create profound shifts. This is because positive thinking is done on a conscious level. Our blocks are in our subconscious. Once we work through these blocks instead of ignoring, avoiding, or dismissing them, then we can use positive thinking. Then it won’t feel like there is something inside fighting us or not believing us. Real manifestation happens once we are in our worth; by addressing the root of our thoughts and feelings, we unlock the incredible potential to manifest our dreams into reality. This is where Internal Family Systems comes in.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
I view the world through the lens of Internal Family Systems (it’s the therapist in me!). I believe IFS not only works in a therapeutic setting but also within manifestation.
According to IFS, we are composed of many parts, aspects of our personality, and our True Self. Our parts and True Self work together. True Self is what connects us to the Universe, it is our higher self, our authentic self. Our parts are what make us human. However, our parts can also take on new jobs and roles based on our experiences. Particularly in childhood/adolescence. IFS helps us connect with these parts of us building relationships and trust within our internal world. No longer having that internal struggle, being pulled in many directions, or second guessing ourselves or our abilities. IFS brings healing and harmony to our internal system, just the way it was intended to be.
Understanding Our Parts
Our parts take on new roles and jobs as a way to protect us, keep us and our internal system safe. Even if it doesn’t seem like it’s the best thing to do, especially as our experiences change. These parts of us are so impacted by our experiences, they internalize them often leading to programming, conditioning, limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, unhealthy behaviors, and ultimately low self-worth. Remember-we must be in our worth to manifest.
Often times, our parts take over. They blend with our True Self, and we are then only operating from a place of past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs. This is not the place we want to be when we are trying to manifest!
Using principles of IFS, we learn how to align with our True Self, connect with our parts, and build trusting relationships within the system. By building that trust and relationship, the parts learn that it is safe to allow our True Self to take the lead. We can also work with these parts holding the past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs, so they can begin to heal, let go, and feel safe. This is where the magic happens!
Connecting with Your True Self
True Self, also known as our authentic self or higher self, is our intuitive guide. When we are in True Self, we are open to the Universe and can receive what it offers. Accessing True Self energy means being present, connected to our bodies, and aligned with the creative consciousness of the Universe.
Knowing you’re in True Self involves experiencing at least one of the 8 C’s: compassion, curiosity, clarity, creativity, calm, confidence, courage, and connectedness. In other words, are you feeling open? These qualities signify that you are aligned with your True Self and ready to co-create the life you desire with the Universe.
Becoming Self-Led
Themore we go inward, talk to our parts, build a relationship, the more we become Self-led. The more we become Self-led, the more we are opening ourselves up to the Universe. We feel inherently worthy, deserving, of what we are trying to manifest. This is because the parts are no longer jumping in based on what happened in the past. Instead, they feel safe and secure to let our True Self take the lead.
This creates internal harmony and opens us up to the Universe. By working with our parts, we can heal from past programming and limiting beliefs, making space for our manifestations to flow in.
To Successfully Manifest
The secret to manifestation is being in our worth. We must be in our worth and in alignment with our True Self and the Universe. This is fundamental. This is the key to manifesting.
When we give ourselves compassion, show ourselves some love, we manifest the love our True Self wants. We feel worthy of that love and are ready for it.
Self-compassion is an excellent way to feel worthy. Compassion is one of the 8 C’s of True Self. being compassionate towards all parts of us is not only healing, but it makes us magnetic, bringing us closer to our manifestations.
When We Aren’t Compassionate to Ourselves
Think about this, if you are getting down on yourself, this is a part. This parts of you think that getting down on yourself will be motivational in some way, which it is not most of the time. Instead, you feel shame and guilt when you get down on yourself.
Or if you have thoughts that you aren’t good enough, worthy enough, or deserving enough. These parts are the hurt vulnerable parts that are holding onto limiting beliefs. These parts are buried deep, often thought of as shadow parts.
The negative self-talk and limiting beliefs are what keep you out of alignment with your True Self and keep you from manifesting what you want.
Negative self-talk and limiting beliefs, make it difficult to be compassionate towards yourself. But this is what must be done if you want to have a healthy relationship with yourself and if you want to manifest.
Cultivating Self-Compassion
So today, I wanted to talk about ways to cultivate self-compassion.
By having self-compassion, you can heal those parts that are in the shadows. By changing your internal dialog, you are shifting the way your parts perceive the world. You are also becoming Self-led, meaning that your True Self is in the lead and the parts are helping you. Instead of the parts taking over while running off invisible scripts, past programming, conditioning, and limiting beliefs. This happens to all of us and perhaps more often than we would like to admit, or even acknowledge.
There is true empowerment with being compassionate towards all parts of yourself. And as I said before, it is one of the 8 C’s of True Self. When you are genuinely compassionate towards your parts you are harnessing True Self energy.
Self-Compassion Practices
Simple, everyday practices to develop compassion towards yourself and your parts.
1. Mindful Breathing:
– Practice mindful breathing for a few minutes each day. Focus on the sensation of the breath entering and leaving your body. When thoughts or judgments arise, acknowledge them without attachment and gently guide your focus back to your breath. This practice can foster a state of presence and self-compassion. This is because it is allowing you to access your True Self!
2. Body Scan Meditation:
– Engage in a body scan meditation paying attention to each part of your body in turn, sending it gratitude and kindness. This can help you develop a compassionate relationship with your physical self and recognize the efforts of your body parts. If you would like to be guided through a body scan, Insight Timer is an amazing app with tons of free meditations on them including body scan meditations. Check it out here!
3. Self-Compassion Break:
– When faced with a stressful situation, take a self-compassion break. This is all about the pause. Stop for a moment, placing a hand over your heart, acknowledging the difficult and stressful situation you are in, and offering yourself words of kindness and understanding, just as you would to a good friend.
Talking to yourself as you would your BFF is a great way to cultivate self-compassion. Most times we are much kinder and understanding of what a friend is going through than we are ourselves.
4. Gratitude Journaling:
– Keep a gratitude journal where you write down three things you are grateful for about yourself each day. This can shift your focus from self-criticism to appreciation, enhancing self-compassion. I really like doing this before bed to shift perspective of the day I just had. It is also nice to show a little gratitude in the morning when you wake up. You don’t have to write them down in the morning, but it is also a great way to shift your focus first thing. So, try it in the morning and at night.
5. Compassionate Letter Writing:
– Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of a compassionate friend or mentor. Address your struggles, fears, and disappointments with empathy and encouragement. This exercise can help shift your internal dialogue to one that is more loving and supportive.
As you write about your struggles, fears, and disappointments, think of these as parts of you holding on to these things. When True Self you can show empathy and encouragement instead of trying to dismiss or shut the part down for struggling or having fears, you are showing these parts that they matter, they are not forgotten, and are healing these parts. It is also teaching the other parts of you how they can start communicating with one another, since often times our parts bicker back and forth like siblings.
Bonus
These practices are designed to be simple yet powerful tools to foster a kinder and more compassionate relationship with yourself and your parts. They can be easily integrated into your daily routine and adapted to fit your needs and preferences.
Choose to do one or a few of them, trying out what feels best for you. When you find what you like, stick with it. By doing these practices you are making new neural pathways in your brain. To read more about neural pathways, check out this blog post! This takes time, so don’t give up!
Meditation/Journaling Exercise
That is focused on self-dialogue to enhance understanding and compassion for your parts. These prompts aim to enhance understanding and compassion for your parts by encouraging introspection and open communication with different aspects of yourself. This can be done either as a meditation practice or as a journaling exercise. Whatever works for you.
Prompts
1. Introduction to Your Parts
Choose a part of yourself that has been particularly active or vocal recently. Introduce this part as if it were a character in a story. What is its name, what role does it play in your life, and what are its intentions? Write about how it tries to protect or serve you, even in ways that might not always be helpful.
2. Understanding the Needs of Your Parts
Select a part that often triggers strong emotions or reactions. Reflect on and write about the underlying needs or fears of this part. What is it trying to communicate to you? How might you meet its needs in a healthy and constructive way?
3. A Conversation with a Protective Part
Think of a protective part of yourself (perhaps an anxious part, perfectionist, or a procrastinator part, for example). Have a ‘written conversation’ with this part. Ask it questions such as: Why does it feel the need to protect you? What does it wish you understood about its actions? How does it react to the idea of allowing more Self-energy to lead?
4. Negotiating with Your Parts
Identify a part that you feel is holding you back or creating conflict within your internal system. Write a dialogue between your Self and this part, focusing on negotiation and understanding. Explore what compromises might look like and how you can work together to achieve your mutual well-being.
5. Gratitude Towards Your Parts
Reflect on all the parts that have been active in your life recently. Write a letter of gratitude to them, acknowledging the roles they play and the protection or services they provide. How have they contributed to your growth, and how can you honor their presence while also guiding them with your Self?
Gain Self-Awareness
These journal prompts are designed to facilitate a deeper connection and conversation with the various parts of yourself, promoting self-awareness, compassion, and integration. I encourage you to approach these exercises with an open heart and mind, our parts are valuable and have positive intentions at their core. Some validation, compassion, and empathy go along way!
Unlocking Your Inner Magnetism
By incorporating these self-compassion practices, you are aligning with your True Self, becoming Self-led, and are unlocking your inner magnetism!
This is part one of my two-part series on Unlocking Your Inner Magnetism, A Journey of Self-Love and Manifestation. The second part will be all about self-love. Read part two here- The connection Between Self-Love and Manifestation.
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